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The Way We Really Are: Coming to Terms with America's Changing Families
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In a meticulously researched, balanced account, nationally renowned historian Stephanie Coontz provides compelling evidence that the structure of the modern family, although much changed from the traditional model, is intact and is actually working better than ever. --alibris.com.

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Review of: The Way We Really Are

Kirkus Reviews, March 1, 1997

A historian of the American family debunks the myth that a return to the so-called traditional two-parent nuclear family can provide us with an unassailable refuge from the social, economic, and psychological malaise Americans seem to feel so acutely these days. More...

When Family Values Meet Reality

Des Moines Sunday Regiser, May 18, 1997, Reviewed by Paul Rosenburg

A historian of the American family debunks the myth that a return to the so-called traditional two-parent nuclear family can provide us with an unassailable refuge from the social, economic, and psychological malaise Americans seem to feel so acutely these days. More...

Domestic Solutions

The New york times Book Review, September 24, 1997, By Eden Ross Lipson

The publication of The Way We Never Were: American Families and the Nostalgia Trap, Stephanie Coontz's previous book, came in time for that book to serve as fodder in the "family values" debate that dominated the 1992 election. What might have been merely a well-received, clearly written book by an academic, became fuel in the sound-bite fires and set the author, a historian at Evergreen State College in [Washington], on the road. The reception of that book perhaps contributed to the accessible tone of Coontz's follow-up, a look at the contemporary American family called The Way We Really Are: Coming to Terms With America's Changing Families. More...

Review of: The Way We Really Are

Contemporary Sociology, Judy Root Aulette, University of North Carolina, Charlotte

Stephanie Coontz is a scholar activist. A historian, author, and teacher, she has also jumped into the fray of public debate on families, using her considerable skills to examine contemporary families as well as historical patterns. She now brings her ideas to the most popular of the popular media, being quoted, misquoted, and interviewed by the likes of Oprah, the National Enquirer, the New York Times, CNN, and Crossfire. A founding member of the Council on Contemporary Families, Coontz offers an alternative point of view to the politically conservative "family values" advocates. More...

Review of: The Way We Really Are

Publisher's Weekly, February 17, 1997

Family historian Coontz is up in arms over misconceptions in the media about what have been termed "traditional" families. The author of The Way We Never Were, which tried to debunk some of the myths about the American family through history, here turns her attention to family life today. Against the backdrop of the war over "family values," Coontz set out to meet people from every type of background. More...

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